We are adults, right? The last time I checked, I was an adult. I have all the adult responsibilities. Mortgage? Check. Credit card bills? Check. Utilities? Check. Drama? Che…Wait! That’s not an adult trait, is it? Nope. At least, it shouldn’t be.

Adulthood is a time in our lives where we should be able to be ourselves without worrying what others think. This was (still is, to be honest) a big problem for me. From looking around, I can see that it is still a problem for others as well.

What I am coming to learn and finally accept is that if you are true to yourself and your values, you do not need to worry about what other people think. It’s between you and God.

Too many times, we (including myself here!) get hung up on something we perceive that a friend has done to us. In all reality, the person didn’t “do” it to you, you just perceived it that way. You cannot be in another human’s mind to figure out his/her motive.

I knew someone who “perceived” herself into misery. If she liked a couch and her sister bought it, she accused her sister of buying it so that she could not have it. When her neighbor painted his house the color she had mentioned (in passing, mind you) she thought he had done it on purpose. Why she thought that people had these evil intentions toward her, I have no idea. She was a sweet, loving person. I bought into her dramas until she turned it on me. Her birthday fell on a Friday one year, and so I decided to have her party (yes, my family and I were throwing her a party) on Saturday. She accused of us moving her birthday celebration on purpose to hurt her. I truly loved this individual, but in the four years since I have talked to her, I have NOT missed her drama one iota.

Take a moment to consider that most people do not make you the center of their world. Just try to cut them (and yourself) a break. NO more drama! I know this is certainly my goal.